Articles for Couples
Whenever a married couple tells me that their sex life has lost its pizzazz, I tell them to recall a specific sexual experience they had together in the past when it was still exciting. Just about everyone remembers at least one such experience. Read more
Inhibitions are like a string of firecrackers: When we break through one, several other inhibitions can explode automatically, freeing us to enjoy sex more fully. But the reverse is also true: When we inhibit one aspect of our sexuality, we automatically inhibit several aspects, making sex nervous and less than satisfactory. Read more
The couple who made out in their driveway admitted to me that part of the thrill for them was the effect it had on the neighbors. “Occasionally we’ll see the lady next door peering out at us from behind the curtains,” the husband said, “and we’ll duck down behind the seat and giggle away and go at it some more. We’re sure she’s jealous of us.” Read more
How to Talk Dirty and Influence People
Once couple who came to me complaining that they did not have the time for sex were actually telling the truth. They were each in a profession that required frequent extended business trips away from home. ?Why not have sex over the phone?? I asked them. ?It is certainly better than nothing.? Read more
Time and again, men and women tell me that what they miss most in married sex is the titillation of seduction. One woman, Cheryl Q., told me, “Before we were married, Joe always made a big production out of getting me into bed. It started with flowers, went on to wine and soft music and romantic talk, then he’d kiss me and talk some more before he went on. It was lovely. And now it’s all gone! Now he waits until bedtime and then he wants to go at it the minute he gets into bed.” Read more
A Day In The Life Of A Great Lover
She doesn’t wait until it’s time to turn out the lights to try to turn him on. She starts thinking sexy, feeling romantic, from the moment she wakes up. Now they both enjoy sex more. (Why couldn’t this woman be you?) Read more
It’s Getting Better All the Time – Sex After Forty
Sex is what you make of it. The capacity to have orgasms and to enjoy sex is as good at 65 as at 25. Problem: Our society usually equates sexuality with youth. But when it comes to lovemaking, age is actually a plus. As people get older, they find it easier to let themselves go, to relax and enjoy sex instead of worrying that every sexual act be a display of virtuosity. Often they’re more comfortable with their partner ? and intimacy developed over time enhances physical pleasure. Read more
How to Have Good Sex in an Old Marriage
For most of us, our early sexual experiences were sneaky affairs in the backseats of cars, hidden spots in the woods, or under blue lights in the basement. Breaking the rules was half the thrill of it all ? we were thumbing our noses at society, getting one up on our parents ? and that excitement was only intensified by the risk of being caught in the act.
1985 – Essence Read more
